One year ago today I published my first blog post on this site! I can’t believe it’s been a year! Thanks so much to everyone who has read, liked, and shared my posts/site.
Talking about this was really hard for me. I’m a pretty private person. Prior to this blog, I could probably count on one hand the number of people who knew about my journey.
While some think it’s admirable, other’s don’t. There is definitely a stigma. I’ve had folks 50+ and folks under 50 try to talk me out of waiting. They said I would find someone I could share that part of me with and that I could have a totally fulfilling relationship that included that level of intimacy. What they didn’t seem to understand is that I tried that and was tired of trying it that way and getting the same results. I needed a change and this was my change. So I had to tune them out, redirect the conversation, and go on my way.
I don’t expect everyone to wait but it is an option. You might read this blog and decide to wait, or you might decide not to. You might wait for a time and eventually have sex or for some, you’ve already been waiting. Whatever you decide, it is your decision. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for doing what feels right for you. It took me a long time to shake off misconceptions about my wait and to keep the faith while waiting. I had to learn to wait unapologetically.
There will always be critics. There will always be someone who doesn’t understand your journey. Honestly, they are too close. I have close friends who waited. Having them around makes it easier. If you have friends who aren’t supportive, they’re not your friends. Show them the door and do what God has told/is telling you to do.