If you’ve been dating any length of time it can be difficult to transition from being in a relationship to being single again.
I remember knowing a relationship was coming to an end, and dreading the “get over it” process because for me, it lasted a long time.
After being with someone for a time, it can be difficult to go at life alone. You’re not getting sweet calls or texts throughout the day or looking forward to someone holding you at night. If you never develop the ability to be alone and content, your happiness will always be dependent upon someone else and you don’t that…well, I don’t want that.
There is strength in waiting. I know that doesn’t sound glamorous but learning how to do things on your own and enjoy your own company is something we should all strive for.
Some of us (I’ve definitely done this) will keep someone around who we know isn’t good for us.
He (or she) is convenient. They’re there when you want to go out, cuddle, have sex, go to the movies or just chill at the house. But you know he/she is not the one. You’ve always known. No news here.
So you buy time with this person. They may also be buying time with you but that’s another post for another day.
Have you heard the saying, “don’t waste your pretty?”, well don’t waste your time either. There may be some spiritual and emotional development God wants you to do and odds are, He wants you all to himself while He does a work in you.
I used to hate going places alone. Now I go out to eat alone, the movies, I even go on trips…alone! I got tired of wanting to go and do and not having someone to go and do with. Now, I do have friends, but spending time with a significant other is different.
I say all of this to say, go at it alone. You don’t have to have someone around for you to be ok. You can be happy all by yourself. If your happiness depends on someone else, you’ll never truly be happy.
You are responsible for your own happiness. Yes you, all by yourself. Take some time for yourself, get to know you again and don’t be afraid to do it alone.