I Already Have A Crown

I was having a conversation with someone recently and they said I was a queen and needed a crown. In true Tiffani fashion I said (because I do), “I already have a crown.”

You have to know who you are.

I learned this more than anything last year when my identity was challenged in all areas of my life – my views, my ways, who I was and where I came from. I remember people saying “no you’re not” after I had explained who I was.

It’s easy to believe what people say about you if don’t know who you are.

It’s also easy to get trapped in a bad situation when you haven’t fleshed out your values and don’t know your worth.

Don’t let someone else determine your worth. Know it for yourself. So if someone comes along and doesn’t know your worth, they stand out like a puff coat on hot day.

Knowledge of self is so important when determining who could be a potential life partner. While no one is perfect, there are people out there with good qualities who still aren’t a good fit. Knowing you means knowing what works for you and what doesn’t.

Stay strong during this love season. Don’t feel pressured to move in the wrong direction just to have someone on the day.

Choose you. Decide what want, become that, and hopefully it’ll come your way soon.

Until then….dust off your crown! Put it back on and don’t let anyone define you. You define you. Be your best self and watch God’s blessings overflow in your life!

Happy Waiting!

Valentine’s Day Victory

It’s the end of Valentine’s Day and it was better than I imagined!

At church on Sunday, the Pastor said a sex therapist would be talking about singles and sex on Tuesday (today). I was a little skeptical and planned on eating ice cream and reading into Valentine’s night but I decided to go. I’m so glad I did.

Here are some of takeaways…

Assistant Lead Pastor Larry Paige gave us these little bits of wisdom –

First, you must know your purpose. You have to know you well. Know what you will and won’t do and exactly what you’re looking for. I spoke about this in an earlier blog post. You can find it here.

He also said to be patient. You should spend more time preparing than dating. This was in response to a question about how long is too long to wait for a proposal. This spoke volumes to me since I haven’t been in a serious/committed relationship in 4+ years. I feel like I’m overdue but hey, I want to be ready when the time comes.

He also spoke about permission. While I don’t remember everything he said regarding this, the message was to investigate. Don’t fall for potential. Oftentimes potential is just that, potential. Trust me when I say I’ve dated potential and he never changes!

If you want to learn more about Larry Paige you can find his bio and information about the here. If you’re not in the area, there’s a live stream! Watch it from your living room. It was a great way to end Valentine’s Day.

Have a good night!